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30-Day Discipline Experiment – Day 4

For those in the U.S., happy Independence Day! 

Angela, a subscribers who posted a comment on Day 3, has inspired me to speak more about discipline and getting things done! 

Collectively, we seem to be tired, overwhelmed, overworked, unsatisfied, and plugged in a good deal of the time to some electronic gizmo.  I think we may be so fragmented by life’s many voices (and choices) that we do not tune in to our inner worlds.  The external world is captivating (and demanding), but it’s not the only world.  The inner world is where our life’s blueprint for living resides.  When we stay so focused on the outer worlds, we lose the messages that our hearts and souls are whispering.  These are the messages that will bring us direction, satisfaction, and hope. 

For the most part, we judge ourselves by how much we accomplish.  But if we’re psychically pooped and unclear about what we most want in life, we feel unfocused, undisciplined, and too tired to do much of anything but surf the Internet or watch TV at the end of the day.  We begin to judge and criticize ourselves.

I believe the antidote is to spend time every day tuning in to our inner worlds.  Naturally this also means unplugging frequently (even briefly) from the outer world and the electronic gadgets that keep us going down someone else’s path.  Unplugging the equipment means quieting the noise and stopping all outer engagements so that we can make an inner connection.  I tune into my inner world when I’m doing simple things like dishes, sweeping the sidewalk, dusting, and other chores.  I also tune inward when taking a walk or while meditating. 

The lesson for me in all of this is to do what I know will work–turn inward and ask myself what I really want and what I want to do.  Sounds simple, but it isn’t.  Having a vision for what I want in life always helps me achieve what I want in life.  Each year at New Year’s I select a theme for the year that guides and inspires me.  This year I was so discombobulated by life that I didn’t choose a theme.  That’s not quite accurate–I tried out several and never stuck with any one.  Being singular in focus helps me because my tendency is to spread myself too thin, do too much, and hence lose myself.

It’s time for me to tap into the bigger vision for my life that will pull me forward.  I don’t need as much discipline when I have a goal or desire that’s big enough to pull me forward.  For me, tuning in regularly every day will take discipline.  But I know that it will pay off because it has numerous times in the past. 

I have made a list of possible questions that I will explore when I tune in one for a few minutes here and there throughout the day and when I completely stop all activity to meditate.  Here are a few questions from my menu of questions:

  • If the timing is right for me to get a dog now, give me a clear sign.
  • How can I experience more joy every day?
  • What is the safest most enjoyable way to return to my ideal weight?
  • How can I best serve in this lifetime?

I will let you know how it goes.  How is it going for you?

Now I need to get back to getting ready for my party tonight!

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  1. Angela says:

    Yet again – perfect timing. I haven’t had a chance to look at my emails since I wrote to you last and yet it was the perfect piece to reflect on today. Thank you!

    I’d like to just share an observation about me concerning discipline regarding weight control. I have a 15 year pattern of yoyoing with my weight from 5 to 20 pounds, but over the past year it’s become an obsession. I’m constantly thinking I must look like some ideal – whether it is an old picture of me, a current magazine showing some skinny star or a comment from my husband. It’s exhausting, depressing and serves no greater good for me or my family and I’ve been trying to figure out how I can change this aspect of my life.

    What I am discovering is that when I do look to the inside – the soul – I’m not so vain, so obsessed. I actually appreciate my body – at times like it.

    What’s frustrating is that these blessed, inward moments are too few and far between. I feel like I’m in a tug of war with myself. I guess that’s one very specific area I want to focus on this month with your help. I want to turn the tide and truly make a change.

    This is wonderful stuff, Cheryl! Glad I found you!

  2. Hi Angela – Thank you!

    What occurred to while reading your comment is this. When we’ve been unsuccessful at making a change (or when we really really really want it and fear we won’t be successful), we pour it on and get obsessed believing that will “make” us stay on track and be successful. And when that doesn’t work in the long run (surprise surprise!), we give up and lose hope. Feeling like a hopeless failure can encourage us to eat ice cream and stop exercising. This is a definite recipe for yoyo dieting. Did you see any truth in this for you? Cheryl


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