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30-Day Discipline Experiment – Day 2

I haven’t had the time and head space yet to lay out my plan for this 30 days experiment.  Stop laughing!  What I am prepared to do right now, though, is stop gossiping and complaining for 30 days.  That should be particularly challenging because I’ve also started a new blog category telling stories about helping my aging parents for the past two weeks.  I’m not quite over it…if you know what I mean, so this experiment will be particularly interesting.  In fact, I’ve preloaded a post for tomorrow about parents lying to make themselves look good.  I may have to revise that one :)

I don’t gossip and complain as much as I could, but I do it more than I’d like.  I get a kick out of it.  Not only am I going to hold myself accountable in the literal sense, but I’m going to attempt to purge the underlying feelings that fuel the gossip or complaint.  I’ll let you know how that goes and I’ll try not to lie like my parents :).

Don’t get me wrong.  If my food is delivered cold when dining out, I’ll send it back.  I just won’t take it personally and complain about it.  And if somebody drives too slowly in front of me when I’m in a hurry, I’ll send them a blessing.  If I get a telemarketing call, I’ll simply say “no thank you” and hang up.  And if my new shoes give me a blister, I’ll just apply a Band-Aid.  Gee this is going to be tough!  But I’m eager to see how I do.  And I know my life will be better without the negative energy of gossiping and complaining.  Cool!  What kind of person will I become?

Let’s see, I need a visual reminder of my goal.   I will start by writing it on my bathroom mirror with a Sharpie.  I have used that technique to keep affirmations uppermost in my mind.   I repeat them while brushing my teeth.  I better put some kind of note in my car as well.  And maybe a note in the book I’m reading before bed.  But the best route to my success is to decide.  Once I truly make a decision about what I want to do, the doing gets much easier.  Being on the fence is always more challenging. 

I’m kind of excited by this day’s experiment so it may be easier than I think.  I’m eager to put myself to the test.

Do you want to join me in this experiment to stop gossiping and complaining?  Thoughts?  Stories to share?

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  1. Kathy says:

    The goal is admirable but I have to wonder what you are going to do with the feelings that prompt the gossiping and complaining in the first place? This is not a criticism but what need do they fulfill? If you don’t address the need underneath, probably you can change the habit, but something else will manifest such as stress and/or anxiety which will be just as unpleasant.

    I wish you discovery and success in your endeavor.

    With Good Intent,

  2. Thank you Kathy for this provocative question. I think that self-love and love of others must be the answer. The direct opposite of anger is love – so I’m guessing that I’ll need to check in with how much I’m loving myself and others. This will now be a part of this experiment. Thanks for the prompting! Cheryl


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